10 Things about Love and Marriage

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The Durr Durrs at Puerto Galera (January 2015) photo taken by Ivan Cabales

Someone said to me “Marriage is hard, you have to work on it”. I didn’t actually reflected on that since at the time I was single and carefree. Now that I wear a ring on my finger, it’s all different.

My husband and I have not celebrated our first wedding anniversary yet but I am learning a lot of things. So far here’s my Top 10:

1. Love is a magical thing and one should be happy when he/she finds it.

2. One must pray that Love stays.

3. Choosing “sleep” over “let’s talk about it” is not a good thing. You will feel worse the next day when you wake up.

4. There is no turning back when you say “Yes, I am ready and I want to marry!”.

5. Both must be brave enough to jump over their comfort zone.

6. “I” simply turns into “We”, no explanation needed.

7. Couples must spend time apart, like jogging together but different routes to have some cool space in between.

8. Eat and be merry.

9. Forgive.

10. Love daily and have 10 – 20 minutes of cuddle time together. Please no phones during cuddling/sharing time!

The day I became Mrs. Aquino

1July 25, 2014 was a memorable day for me, not only did I turn 29, I also tied the knot to the man whom I promise to love each day. Who would have known I would settle down this year? That was out of my plan though I joke about it at times. Truly, God created this miracle and I will always be a believer. I met Xave late last year, last week of December 2013 to be exact when I was helping out a friend for their wedding. Well, I actually met Xave a few years back but I just can’t remember it even if he recalls the story of him offering me a burger and I declined. Haha! Was I that snob? All I can remember was that I was so busy with the photoshoot. Anyway, our relationship was quite different from the rest I guess, we didn’t have that cheesy and long courtship type. Not even flowers and chocolates and endless movie dates. All we felt was that time was on our side and you know that feeling when they say “Once you find true love, that’s it and there’s no turning back” and yeah, this was IT for both of us.

Enough of the intro, I am excited to share with you all the photos during our civil wedding.

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A few weeks before the wedding, I started preppin’ up for the big day. I asked friends for empty wine bottles since I have been wanting to create our own table centerpiece. Luckily, I was able to collect around 20 bottles (as you can see from above). My friends and sisters also assisted me in making colorful paper pompoms that will be used as the main decor. Thanks to Youtube and Pinterest for the easy to follow DIY’s.

3 Of course, Pinoy food will always be my choice. Super thanks to everyone who assisted my Mom and Tita Tek in preparing and cooking all these viands. We were so full and everyone enjoyed the Hamonado, Pancit, Menudo, Imbotido, Lumpiang Bangus, Chicken, Mixed Veggies and Lechon!4No cupcakes this time but this tasted better, believe me!!! Who can go wrong with Puto Flans? Thanks Tita Tek for the gift, I enjoyed it so much I finished two. Photo quotes are all from Pinterest, yep my fave app after Instagram.
5 The serious yet happiest civil wedding I have ever attended (not being biased here since this is my own wedding, but I think the feeling is similar to a Church wedding). I was crying and laughing the whole time, I cannot control my emotions, grateful isn’t enough, it was more than that. Thank you to our parents, Mommy Lily, Daddy Lebong and Mommy Mila for being there the whole time. Big love to our witnesses Tito Al, Tita Malyn, Tita Edith and Jhoanne.6 (1)Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

6 I got great girlfriends who literally laugh and cry with me (even photo’s can’t hide it). To our witnesses and parents who all gave a heartwarming message, thank you. Though I noticed that most of them said “Go and have babies”, lol!7 We were so happy we couldn’t even speak, I should have written down a poem instead 🙂8“The KISS that would last a lifetime.”9 There’s no turning back, we both signed it! Officially Mr. & Mrs. Aquino.10 From L-R Gonzal, Dad, Mom, Jhoanne, Tita Malyn, Tito Al, Tita Edith, Mommy Mila and us.11Yep, the biggest family of them all.
12 Xave’s Mom, Jhoanne, Tita Edith and us.13 We enjoyed our cake, until the day after the wedding. Tastes real good with coffee 😉14 Thank you thank you thank you to all who came, sorry I was not able to invite all our friends. Tito Oyet and Tita Ting, thanks for the booze! Do not worry, we still have a Church wedding planned 2-3 years from now. We will ensure that all the important people of our lives will be able to witness us exchange vows before the altar.15 To my niece who also celebrated her birthday last July 23, 2014, a very happy birthday Caitlyn. May you receive more blessings from our Lord above. We love you!16A quick question to my girls… “Who’s next?”.
17The biggest smile ever, happily married.

Love, Joycelyn Aralar Aquino

 

Weekly Photo Challenge: Treasure

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The day they said “I DO”

Yesterday was a very lovely day, specially for the newly weds. Jeremy and Karen, thank you for picking me as one of your bridesmaid. Preparing for your wedding was a memorable one not only for me but for your families and friends. Always treasure the day you said “I DO” to each other, I know that you are gonna have a great life ahead. Love you both!

Heed my call

He tangled his feet with mine for a long time

Seemed like he was lost in his own trance

His own train of thoughts

 

His own, deep, train of thoughts

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Then…

He spoke of verses I thought I would never hear from someone

He cried his heart out with honesty and longing

Saying “I don’t want to look for another”

The one who’s always there

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Cheers to the night when I can’t sleep and you were available. You seem to know how to communicate to me in a quiet way like no one can do. To the realizations of 2013 and that life will never be the same each passing day. I sip the night away and you were okay with that. Not like the others who wanted and expected more from me. It’s okay to be melancholic around you, or happy, or crazy, or naked. You didn’t care and accepted me for who I am. My sweet cup of coffee… stay with me. Looking forward to more nights and realizations in between. Keep your silence, for my world crumbles up with thoughts that I can’t seem to control at times. I promise to keep this type of relationship with you. 🙂

I thank God for strangers

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I went out of work after Christmas Eve. My mind was spinning around so many different things in each millisecond. To sum it up, I am overthinking again. I was so busy with my own thoughts I barely noticed a lady standing a few feet away from me. Then she said “Merry Christmas” with a big smile on her face. Good thing I was able to respond as soon as possible.

Then realization dawned on me, that strangers are wonderful. Always.

Her husband parked the car perfectly and went to her side. Kissed her. Though there wasn’t enough life for me to see them, I bet they are full of love for each other. They started walking the other way… and this was the photo I got. The lady in her black and white dress and her husband in red polo. They are having the nicest Christmas of their lives, hope you are too.

To my dear readers, Happy Holidays! More love to come!!!